“The righteous man walks in integrity; His children are blessed after him.” – Proverbs 20:7
With Father’s Day coming up in just a few days, I wanted to take the time to honor an important dad in my own life. My late husband and the father of Emily and Emmett was the most amazing father I could have ever imagined. From the moment he first held Emily in his arms with tears unashamedly running down his cheeks, I could just “feel” the love he had for her. We were both very young when she was born (he was 22 and I was just barely 20), so that meant we had a LOT of learning to do about raising kids. From the time she was born, he spent every free moment with her and I doing things together. Once she was old enough to go out and enjoy the outdoors, he would carry her around the yard, pull her in her wagon, or swing her in the baby swing he had lovingly placed in the tree in our yard. Then, it wasn’t too much longer before Emmett arrived. This same process continued with him. I have never met a prouder father. Every evening after Chuck got home from work, he could be found out in the yard playing with the kids. He was amazing in every sense of the word. He built them a tree fort out of old power poles, a zip line, and numerous other things that brought the neighborhood kids running. We made spending time with our kids a huge priority in our lives.
As the kids grew older, we went on family vacations, where Chuck could be found playing with the kids in the ocean or hiking up the side of a cliff. He was a kid at heart. He loved to play and horse around. He had a heart of gold and would do anything for anyone. One of the most crucial decisions we made before the kids were born was that we were determined to teach our children useful life skills. Everything from how to properly wash dishes (by hand) to how to measure and cut a 2 x 4. Little did I know way back then that the time we would have with him would be cut short. In the 18 years he had with Emily and 16 with Emmett, he managed to teach them so many relevant life skills and I, as I am sure they will too, be ever so grateful for all of the things he taught them. I wish he would have been able to see what amazing people they have grown into and what they will become in the future.
Although I have so many questions as to why he was taken from us so young, I have come to learn that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes those reasons are not immediately made known. And that is a difficult thing for me, as a person, to process sometimes. I am a naturally curious person by nature, and not having answers is hard for me to tolerate. That’s where faith comes in. I have found that if I try to overanalyze the situation or come up with a logical reason, I come up empty-handed. So I have to trust our Creator and know that He has a plan for me and that in the end, it will be an amazing one.
For now, I will be thankful for the time we had with him and for the wonderful memories and adventures we shared. So, on this Father’s Day, take the time to appreciate the amazing father(s) in your life and be sure to let them know how much they mean to you, because you never know if it will be the last one you get with them.
Chuck, I want to thank you for taking the time to teach our children, spend time with them, and most importantly, loving them. I love you baby and I miss you every day.